The tone in Solly's voice that makes me think of Sam.
The words he uses that are Sammy's words.
The giggle or the jump or the turn of phrase...Sam.
He's a constant part of our conversation, but briefly, without dwelling on it.
Sam liked that, we might say.
Sam would have picked that one.
Yes, that was Sammy's shirt or stuffed animal.
Someone told me that I should be telling stories about Sam.
But I am not sure how to translate some of these ephemeral* moments into stories.
The way that Sam was silly.
The way that he would make up stories or play games.
The way that he was impatient when things didn't work fast enough or I focused on someone else when I should be reading to him.
The way that he would sing along with the music of DragonVale.
And the ways that Solly and Yael mirror him.
Solly lined up a whole bunch of random toys yesterday, spending quite a lot of time getting their placement just right so that he could play with them in a grand convention of mixed up toyness (dinosaurs and robots and the like). It held so much of Sam-ness that I had to catch my breath.
I was talking to someone this week who didn't know me. As we were talking, I counted heads of my children, who were off doing their own thing. She said something like, "just the 3, right? or is there a 4th somewhere around here that I don't know about?" Harmless remark, made without any intention to wound.
There's a fourth around here somewhere.
You just can't see him...but we can feel his presence everywhere.
Where we were a year ago: getting chemo & doing yoga, and we had just moved into the Ronald McDonald House.
Where we were two years ago: heading up to camp for Shabbat
|June, 2011 - one year before diagnosis|
|also August, 2010. Check out that classic Sammy face.|
|July, 2010 at camp|
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I love hearing about Solly lining up his toys as Sam used to do.
Holding you in my heart.
I would imagine he is indeed right 'there" lining up toys with Solly. Love the photos. xoReplyDelete
I love the references you and the children use to remember Sammy. That is the way it should be now. I think you are wise in not telling a lot of stories about Sam right now. Those will be important later but your ways of remembering him with Solly and Yael are perfect for now.ReplyDelete
Spooky, but ...ReplyDelete