Monday, August 17, 2020

It's the 18th, of course

These last few months have been strange.

For everyone. For the entire world. Everyone staying home, completely scared of a virus, washing their hands, wearing masks....it has also felt like deja vu. When Sam was in the hospital, each day felt something like this. A bubble, our own little world, trying to make normalcy amidst something totally out of whack. Our family talked about Sam a lot in the first few weeks of this strange quarantine, more than we usually do, remembering stories of how we kept ourselves entertained and how it felt to learn all the procedures to keep Sam safe. 

I've always thought about the dates that are imprinted on my memory, my heart, my soul. I kept such careful track of everything, we documented each day, I always wondered if the dates would cease to hold power over me. Would I always feel a sense of dread around June 12? Would August 26 be an anniversary that we'd continue to remember? So far, those dates are a little less dreadful, but still pretty solidly a part of me.

And then came the plan to move into college. Yes, it's time for David to launch out of our nest and into the big wide world. He had a couple of options for move-in day, and he chose August 18. "Eighteen, mom! It's such a good number." Yes, David, it is. It is a good number.

And my heart was so full, because the calendar in my brain gave a little ding, a little reminder bell. August 18, 2013 was the date that Sam moved back into the hospital to begin the bone marrow transplant process. But I didn't remind David about the other August 18 move-in day. It was too much to ask of him, to tell him, to hold onto. It's too much remembering, even in these days that we remember so very much. It was too much sadness to put onto a joyous experience (even amidst a global pandemic - that's probably a whole other blog post!). The undercurrent is always there, but I don't need to bring it to the top. 

This is different. It's completely different. We were vaulting into the unknown then, for sure, with uncertain results. We are vaulting into an unknown, yes, but it's not nearly as unknown. Along with thousands who have come before and thousands who are in it with him, we launch....

It's not the same. And I'm so glad.

But it's nice to know that Sam is with us every day, every moment, in our hearts.


First day - fifth and first grade

David was always Sam's favorite visitor

Moving in on August 18



3 comments:

  1. May David's move to college be a smooth transition for him (and your family too of course).
    Sending positive thoughts and love from New Jersey!
    xoxo

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  2. I hope the 18th will now be filled with fun memories of launching David into college life! Though always remembering that ‘other’ move in day that little Sammy handled with his amazing irrepressible style! David is an incredible young man. He is ready for this big day even though I know how hard (though exciting) this day is for mom and dad....There is nothing quite like dropping off your first born at college. So many emotions. You raised a really fine young man! I so wish you would be looking forward to Sammy starting high school.... #forevereight...Your house is going to seem quite different without David in it but fortunately they visit often! Sending so much love to you, Michael and fam🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢

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  3. hugs
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